A recent conversation with Goofball turned into me thinking and questioning myself.

I am not very word for word but basically I was saying I needed to swing by the store to pick up hot dogs, buns and Fritos.... I was making chili. I said the boys could eat hot dogs, K would have chili and I would have chili dogs. He said my meals were too complicated. Well we discussed and fine. I then mentioned that my ex used not like me to cut up/add onion and peppers or anything to spaghetti sauce. It had to be out of a can or jar.... nothing else.... Now I found out he eats it with stuff added. Goofball's reasoning "New wife".... Yes probably. He has changed a lot and that's fine. He is allowed, I guess....

But I honestly don't remember what it was that he said but it was basically that I didn't push to make them all eat the way I want them to..... as in, I want chili dogs, we are having chili dogs. Why should I do that when I can separate the ingredients and everyone is happy.

Does this make me a bad person? I mean I know my kids are picky eaters.... they are getting better but still not nearly to the point I want them at but I don't push them. I am too sensitive to eating disorders which they already have signs of (emotional eating) and I hate that.

Ya know when they were babies I did all the "right" things. I offered a variety of foods, veggies and fruits. They ate everything for the most part. H didn't eat spinach but that wasn't a big deal to me..... More for me! But this was really the only restriction.... Then suddenly around age 4, they both stopped eating like the used to. They became picky. They got to the point that they wouldn't eat at all... Just refuse. So I started just adapting my menu. So spaghetti became either with sauce or mac-n-chz. (Noodles with cheese on them). Chili dogs became choices.... but basically the same meal, just changed a bit.

L offered a new challenge for me. I made all his baby food. I didn't buy one jar of food for him. With K, I ONLY feed her baby food. I followed the book to the letter.... What can I say? I was young. With H, he was hard to get full so I started feeding him pretty much straight from the table around 6 months. But with L, I thought, "I can totally make all his food!" See my thing was I had a really hard time breastfeeding. I wanted to but I always seemed to fail. I didn't realize all the great resources that could have helped me or I would have tried anything. So when I heard how easy it really was to make baby food (easy peezy!!! I swear), I did it. I worked every Sunday making sweet potatoes, butternut squash, pears and apple sauce.... etc... It was so much fun and he ate so well! His fave was avocado and banana. Turns out avocados are a great first food, then added with banana makes a great "second stage" food. It was great. He was not picky until...... age 2..... He has been my worst one of them all. He often doesn't even eat the adapted meals I make. I can't get this kid to eat period. So I adjust.... I'm easy.

But I often feel like I am a terrible parent for not pushing this. I decided a long time ago that I would pick my battles. If this doesn't bother me, why push the issue? Like I said it is easier for me to just cook what they like rather than what they don't. And now nobody else put the four of us live here so why not. Oh and trust me it was worse with their dad here.... He was King of the Picky eaters. I figured it was my punishment for being picky as a child..... but I learned that I am not a picky eater.... Oh don't get me wrong there are things I would prefer not to eat (why waste calories) but my mom has said that I wasn't picky. She said if I didn't like say the onions in something, I would just push them to the side a little and not say a word. Then when I cleared my plate, I threw them out.

At any rate, I am always questioning my decisions, especially now.... It is almost 100% on me to make decisions for them, 100% for the day to day things, only like 80-90% on bigger things. So I question and second guess everything. But I have to just say this, I am not sorry that I have adapted my cooking and menu to fit their tastes. I picked my battles and this is not worth my time. I do feel like I put my foot down when it counts. (Like just a minute ago with the dishes)

So I guess what I am saying is that I am just doing the best I can and hoping they turn out okay. What more can I ask for.

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A successful week against the spread last week, going 7-6, and now sitting at 32-27 on the season. Its going to be a tough week, so here we go with the lines and games as well as who I am taking:
Indianapolis (-3) at Houston
Who wants it more? Thats what this matchup between two AFC South teams that need a win in the worst way Sunday will come down to. Sure the Colts are a team many thought would be a favorite in the AFC, but have yet to play up to it. The Texans are hoping home cooking will pay off, as they have yet to play at home this season. Tough one to call, but you have to believe that the Colts realize a loss and their hopes of even making the playoffs at 1-3 would be in deep trouble. I like the Colts of old to finally show up and win a close one. Indianapolis 27 Houston 23
Tennessee (-3) at Baltimore

The Ravens could have walked out of Heinz Field at 3-0 after beating the Steelers, but couldnt finish, and now are 2-1 and feeling bad about a blown chance. They now have to face the red hot Titans, who are 4-0 and running the ball and playing D as tough as anyone. Look for the Titans to use that backfield of Chris Johnson and LenDale White to wear down the tired Ravens, who by the fourth quarter will be a very spent football team. Tennessee 23 Baltimore 13
San Diego (-6.5) at Miami
It took awhile for the Chargers to find their legs vs the Raiders last week, but they did, and as they usually do they came out on top vs their west rivals. Now they go to Miami, where the Fins got a week of rest after their thumping of New England on the road two weeks ago. Now that they have won a game, the Dolphins wont be looked at as the same 1-15 team from a year ago. Look for Phillip Rivers to pick apart the Fins secondary, and the run D of San Diego to come up with a plan to halt Ronnie Brown and Rickey Williams to win their third in a row.

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Following a healthy diet is about more than losing weight. Some people just want to stay healthy or improve their health. They're not really concerned with weight loss. If you fall into this category, then you're probably not interested in one of the hundreds of weight loss diets available today. It can be difficult learning how to eat properly if you're not interested in following a specific, shortterm diet.
This article lists some nutritional guidelines that will help you stay healthy and prevent disease. It's not about weight loss. The guidelines here are strictly to help you change your eating habits, and develop a healthy diet to follow indefinitely.
How to Have a Healthy Diet
Carbohydrates are an essential part of a healthy diet. Your body needs carbohydrates in order to get enough energy. Examples of carbohydrates include grains, peas, corn, and starchy vegetables. You can also get carbohydrates from fruits, milk, and other sweets.
It's recommended that you get at least 45 percent of your daily calories from carbohydrates. You should limit your intake of sweets, such as candy. Instead, try to get most of your carbohydrates from whole grains, beans, fruits, and milk.
Another part of a healthy diet is protein. Your body already has a lot of protein. It's found in your skin, bones, muscles, and tissues. Your blood, enzymes, and hormones also contain protein. Your body needs a steady supply of protein to keep everything working like it should. Good sources of protein are meat, seafood, diary, beans, and nuts. At least 10 percent of your daily calories should come from protein.
Believe it or not, a healthy diet should also include a bit of fat. Fat is more important than most people realize. Fat is necessary because it aids your body in absorbing vitamins, it helps protect your immune system, and it helps your cell membranes function properly. The catch is that you can't get too much fat. Too much fat will quickly turn a healthy diet bad. Too much fat in your diet will cause weight gain, and increased risk of high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and heart attack.
You shouldn't get more than 35 percent of your daily calories from fat. And the fat you do get should be healthy fat, such as nuts, olive oil, or canola oil. If you must eat anything that contains saturated fat, it shouldn't be more than 10 percent of your daily calorie intake. Another type of fat is trans fat. This type of fat is commonly found in commercial baked goods and fried foods. This type of fat is really bad for you, and should be avoided whenever possible.
Cholesterol is also an important part of a healthy diet, but just like fat, too much cholesterol can be bad. Your body creates its own cholesterol to aid in proper cell function. But when you foods high in cholesterol your body gets too much. It's best to limit your intake of meat, eggs, and dairy products because they are high in cholesterol.
You should also include fiber and sodium in your healthy diet. Fiber helps prevent constipation, and can help lower your cholesterol and blood sugar levels. Good sources of fiber include vegetables, whole grains, apples, and oranges. Sodium is commonly known as salt. It helps your body maintain the proper balance of fluids. However, too much sodium can cause high blood pressure and increased risk of stroke. Sodium occurs naturally in food, and really shouldn't be added.
If you practice portion control, pay attention to food labels, and get regular exercise, your health and weight will benefit from following a healthy diet.

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